Sexual Sin: Sex outside of marriage, masturbation, sexual fantasy, pornography, same sex relationships, adultery, etc.

Exodus 20:14 “You shall not commit adultery.

Matthew 5:27-28 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery’; but I say to you that everyone who [so much as] looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Galatians 5:19-21 Now the practices of the sinful nature are clearly evident: they are sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality (total irresponsibility, lack of self-control), idolatry, sorcery, hostility, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, disputes, dissensions, factions [that promote heresies], envy, drunkenness, riotous behavior, and other things like these. I warn you beforehand, just as I did previously, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all [that is, regarded as something of great value], and the marriage bed undefiled [by immorality or by any sexual sin]; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

Romans 1:26-28 For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper,

Leviticus 20:13 If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their bloodguiltiness is upon them.

1 John 2:16 For all that is in the world—the lust and sensual craving of the flesh and the lust and longing of the eyes and the boastful pride of life [pretentious confidence in one’s resources or in the stability of earthly things]—these do not come from the Father, but are from the world.

1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they do not have [sufficient] self-control, they should marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Practical Steps to Walk in Freedom

Root Cause Healing: I am all about getting to the root cause of every issue and negative emotion, because if not, we are constantly just treating symptoms. We can spend a lifetime treating symptoms and get wore out, but when we address the root cause we can get total freedom. When I practiced as a mental health therapist, and in my own personal life, I learned we can spend years treating and focusing on the weeds but never deal with the real issue until the entire root system is dug up. It is so important to uncover the root cause and then ask God the best way to deal with it.

Steps to Finding the Root Cause

Recognize the issue/negative emotion.

Ask God to show you the root cause, to take you all the way back to when the root was very first planted in your life, and/or what opened the door to it. Once He shows you spend time exploring it with Him. Ask Him to show you how it has affected your life, actions, and relationships. Also ask Him if anything else is connected to it. Ask Him to show you any lies you have come into agreement with based on the root.

Next, repent for any areas that needs repentance, come out of agreement with all lies, ask God to fully uproot everything that needs to come out, verbally release it, ask God to heal any areas that need healed, and then verbally command any demons that have attached to the root to leave in the name of Jesus.

Coming out of Agreement with Lies

Recognize the lie(s).

Acknowledge the lie and replace it with the truth. Verbally say “__________ is a lie and it is not truth. I repent for accepting it as truth. I will never again accept it as truth, and I call it out for the lie it is. The truth is______________.”

Ask God to break the power of the lie off your life and to completely uproot it.

Verbally command any demons connected to the lie(s) to leave in the name of Jesus.

Christian Counseling: It may be beneficial to seek Godly counsel to heal any wounds that have led to the patterns of sexual sin. There are some wonderful ministries that can help you with Christian counseling if needed. Make sure that you find one that specializes in the sexual issue you are struggling with.

Discipline: It will be up to you to choose to stop the sin/addiction. Crucifying the flesh through denying the desires of the flesh, fasting, prayer, and dedication are a must.

1 Corinthians 6:18 Run away from sexual immorality [in any form, whether thought or behavior, whether visual or written]. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the one who is sexually immoral sins against his own body.

Crucifying our flesh causes us to look less like who we were when we first surrendered our lives to God. If we are in the same spot, level, pattern of sin, and mindsets as when we first gave our lives to Him something is going on and needs to be addressed. We should always be growing, changing, and getting closer to Him. We are called to imitate Him and grow in maturity in our walk with Him. If we are not doing that it could be because we are not actively crucifying our flesh. This does not mean that we will get it right every single time or that we will always be moving forward. We will have seasons where we fall, get up, and fall again, but the important part is that we are always in the process of trying to become who He created us to be.

Actively killing our flesh means we are no longer driven by our fleshy desires that are in direct opposition to God, but instead we walk by the Spirit and choose to allow the fruit of the Spirit to flow though our actions, thoughts, and choices.  It includes habitually putting the sinful deeds of the body to death and not allowing the flesh to drive our actions, behaviors, and choices.

Romans 8:13 for if you are living according to the [impulses of the] flesh, you are going to die. But if [you are living] by the [power of the Holy] Spirit you are habitually putting to death the sinful deeds of the body, you will [really] live forever.

Galatians 5:24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature together with its passions and appetites

Matthew 16:24 Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone wishes to follow Me [as My disciple], he must deny himself [set aside selfish interests], and take up his cross [expressing a willingness to endure whatever may come] and follow Me [believing in Me, conforming to My example in living and, if need be, suffering or perhaps dying because of faith in Me].

We must also be disciplined to turn away from sin and break sinful patterns. We may have to change the people we hang out with and the places we go, but the patterns must break. We must choose to live a Biblically pleasing life for the Lord. It isn’t easy, but if we want to crucify our flesh we must stop giving in to sin and making excuses for the behaviors. We must call it out and deal with it straight on. We must pull down every thought that stands against the Word of God and never allow them to linger in our minds.

There are many times we blame demons for our issues when it is really a discipline issue. We cannot cast out the flesh, and we cannot crucify a demon. When we are dealing with flesh issues it takes discipline to get it under control. Discipline is not fun, and it is not easy, but it is necessary. We need to make sure we are not to busy blaming demons, that we are lacking discipline.

Galatians 5:16 But I say, walk habitually in the [Holy] Spirit [seek Him and be responsive to His guidance], and then you will certainly not carry out the desire of the sinful nature [which responds impulsively without regard for God and His precepts].

Changing Habits: Don’t keep doing the same things you have always done. You will need to make new patterns of behavior. For example, if you always end up having sex (outside of marriage) when you hang out with your girlfriend/boyfriend stop hanging out alone. Go on dates outside of the home and don’t even put yourself in a place for temptation to take over. If you struggle with addiction to pornography you will need to put some safeguards on your electronics. Don’t just say you will stop. Make a plan and put it in place. Don’t try to do it by yourself. Changes your places, people, and things. Don’t think you will be strong enough in the beginning to stand against the same temptations you have always fallen for. Give yourself time to get stronger and in the meantime avoid temptation.

Reading the Bible: Find a Bible reading plan and stick with it. Read the entire Bible and then start all over again. Saturate yourself in God’s Word.

Prayer: Prioritize your prayer time with the Lord and do not let anything get in the way. If this is an area you struggle with try setting alarms on your phone to remind you to pray until you get in the habit of praying. Make time for God daily to sit at His feet and grow in your relationship with Him. Nothing can replace your time with the Lord. Sitting at His feet is where we learn from Him, where we talk to Him, and He talks to us. This is where He pours out His anointing and His love. Prayer is so much more than just asking Him to do things for us. It is about talking to Him and then also listening to Him. I am not saying that we should neglect praying for the needs of others and ourselves, but I am pointing out the importance of not getting stuck in the pattern of only bringing our requests to Him. We must be intentional about our relationship with Him and actively pursue getting closer to Him, learning from Him, and being submitted to Him.

Accountability: Find a godly friend who can help hold you accountable. Don’t go it alone. Seek help and support. Have them ask you the hard questions and refuse to let yourself lie to them. Be open and honest when they ask you how you are doing. Do not go more than a few days without checking in with them, especially in the beginning.  

Heal Relationships: If there are any relationships that need to be healed seek God to show you your part in the healing process. Apologize when needed, be transparent with your actions, take accountability when needed, and change any negative patterns and behaviors.

Deliverance: Often when we have patterns of habitual sin, trauma, and unhealed hurt in our lives doors to demons are opened and they come right on in and take up residence in our mind, will, emotions, and flesh. When that is the case those doors need to be closed, and the demons need to be verbally commanded to leave in the name of Jesus. Once the demons are told to leave you will need to continue doing spiritual warfare because they will try to come back. They will also try to use the sexual issues as a place of temptation to trip you up. Throw away and do not keep anything connected to the sexual sin/addiction.

Break All Ungodly Soul Ties: This type of bond can form when the relationship is unhealthy and one or both of you are controlling, manipulative, toxic, abusive, or dominating over the other. This can also happen in romantic relationships when there is sex outside of marriage. When we step outside of God’s boundaries for relationships, we can form an ungodly soul-tie. Ungodly soul-ties are counterfeit to God’s plan and are enforced by demons meant to enslave us. 1 Corinthians 6:16. Ungodly soul-ties can be formed with the following people: friends, spouse, parents, children, romantic or sexual partners, siblings, domineering authorities, other family members, pastors/ministry leaders, and in abusive or toxic relationships.

If you or someone else crosses the boundary of a healthy relationship, an ungodly soul-tie can form. When ungodly soul-ties or unhealthy attachments are formed, it can bring about a type of spiritual connection that can adversely affect your life.

Breaking Ungodly Soul-Ties

First, you must acknowledge the ungodly soul-ties in your life. Next, destroy or give away any gifts given to you by the other person, things that remind you of them, and items that symbolize the relationship such as rings, flowers, cards, pictures, and any items that are sexual in nature (used with them). Renounce any vows or commitments made that played a part in forming the soul-tie. Even things like “I will love you forever,” “I could never love another person,” or “I cannot live without them in my life,” need to be renounced. They are spoken commitments that need to be undone verbally.

Note about destroying items: You may not want to get rid of pictures because they are part of your past and some of them may be very meaningful. If this is the case I would suggest putting them in a box and not having them out or looking at them for a while. Make sure the ungodly soul-tie is fully broken and some time has passed before you attempt to look at them again.

When breaking ungodly soul-ties make sure to include anyone you had a sexual encounter with (willing or forced). Also, include any nonsexual relationships where there was control, manipulation, abuse and/or domination (friendships, family, ministers, those in authority over you).

This prayer and renunciation will cancel consent that was granted through soul-ties. The prayer can be something like this:

“God, I thank you for being the King over all things including my life. You are my Creator, and I am Your creation. You are the King of my heart and my life. You are all knowing, and You know any ungodly soul-ties that have formed in my life and that need to be broken. I ask You to show me anyone I have an ungodly soul-tie with that needs to be broken. Whether they created it with me or me with them, I pray You would show them all to me. God, please forgive me for any of the ways that I opened the door for the ungodly soul-ties to be formed with (name of person).

God, show me what sins I committed in my relationship with this person that allowed this ungodly soul-tie to form. (Ask God to forgive each sin He reveals to you.) God, show me what I need to forgive (name of person) of so that I can be healed and free of the pain connected to this relationship and experience.

Lord, I do not want for (name of person) to have any control over my life, emotions, or actions and I do not want to have any control over (name of person). Please forgive me for the sin of entangling myself with (name of person) in an ungodly and toxic way. Lord, I confess these ungodly ties as sin and ask that You forgive me and cleanse me of all unrighteousness and my poor choices.

I now ask You to break every ungodly soul-tie that has ever formed in my life whether I created them, or the other person created them. In the name of Jesus Christ, I break, renounce, and denounce the ungodly soul-tie between me and (name of person). Jesus, I surrender my heart, soul, and spirit completely to You and I submit to Your authority in my life. I ask You Lord to call back any parts of me that was given to anyone else, and I refuse and send back any parts of anyone that may have come to me. Please put Your cross between me and (name of person). I choose to be free from the ungodly soul ties in the name of Jesus Christ. Lord, I ask You to heal my heart of the effects this ungodly soul-tie has had on my heart, mind, body, spirit, emotions, relationships, and life. Lord, please restore my soul and my relationship with You completely and totally. Lord, I ask You to make me whole and restore everything that the enemy has stolen from me. Set me free to love You with my whole heart and love others with a Christ-like love that is healthy and godly. In the name of Jesus I pray, Amen.”

Relationship with God: Our relationship with Him is the key to getting free from sexual sin, staying free, and walking in who we were created to be. He must be first in our life. We are called to live a life of submission to Him. We must lay ourselves down at His feet and pick up His will, His purpose, and His plan. There is no room for pride or rebellion. We must always walk in total submission to Him.

Romans 12:1-2 Therefore I urge you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies [dedicating all of yourselves, set apart] as a living sacrifice, holy and well-pleasing to God, which is your rational (logical, intelligent) act of worship. And do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].

Keeping Thoughts Clean: Do not allow any sexual fantasies or memories to take control of your mind. Pull them down the second they start.

We are destroying sophisticated arguments and every exalted and proud thing that sets itself against the [true] knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought and purpose captive to the obedience of Christ, 2 Corinthians 10:5, AMP.

Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart.] Philippians 4:8, AMP.

Combating Sexual Dreams: Pray over your dreams, asking God to keep the demons out of them, every night before you go to bed and verbally command all demons to stay out of your dreams. For example, “I speak the name of Jesus over my mind, thoughts, and dreams. I command all demons of lust, and every other unclean spirit to stay out of my mind in the name of Jesus. I fully submit to God, I resist your attacks, and you MUST flee in the name of Jesus.”

Speak God’s Word: Scripture is so powerful. It will keep you connected to God and it will also make the enemy flee. Pick scriptures that speak specifically to your life and situations and say them out loud. We can also use scriptures to speak against the enemy and pray to God. I created a binder that is full of scriptures that I have personalized to speak and pray over my life and the lives of my family.

Praise and Worship: It pushes darkness back and draws God near. It also reminds us of the goodness of God. If we feel the enemy attacking, we should start verbally recounting all the things God has done for us. We should know our identity in Him and put the enemy on notice that we know who God says we are. We need to have a thankful heart and tell God how thankful we are for all He has done for us. There are times that we just need to sit in His presence and thank Him without asking Him for anything. He has poured His love out on us and loved us even when we could not love ourselves. He is a good Father, and He takes care of His children. We must never take that for granted or take it lightly. We do not deserve His love and kindness, but out of His goodness He gives it to us anyway. He gave His one and only Son for us so that we could have eternal life in heaven. Jesus loved us so much that He faced shame, ridicule, rejection, and physical death so that we could have eternal life with Him. He clothes us in His righteousness and salvation so that we may approach the Father. We must never forget His sacrifice and we should always come to Him with a thankful heart.

Repentance: Be quick to repent when you sin. Also, ask the Holy Spirit to convict you immediately when you mess up. Invite Him to teach you God’s ways. Ask for God to let you see people the way He sees them, feel about others the way He feels about them, and love like He loves. Ask Him to search your heart and mind and burn up anything that is not pleasing to Him. Our goal is to look, act, and feel more like Him. We are called to be His representatives on the earth so we must be more like Him. We need to spend time in self-reflection and ask ourselves—do others see Jesus in us, are we so full of Him that others can sense His presence, do we sound like Him, do we act like Him, do we love like Him, do we have the mind of Christ, and do we represent His character? We must then address the areas where we are lacking. Sexual temptation is not sin, but if you engage it then becomes sin. For example, if the though goes through your head that you should watch pornography you have a choice to make. You can rebuke that thought and change what you are thinking about, or you can act on it. If you choose to act on it you have sinned.

Remain Humble and Submitted to God:

But He gives us more and more grace [through the power of the Holy Spirit to defy sin and live an obedient life that reflects both our faith and our gratitude for our salvation].

Therefore, it says, “God is opposed to the proud and haughty, but [continually] gives

[the gift of] grace to the humble [who turn away from self-righteousness].” James 4:6, AMP.

We must always walk in full submission to Him. We must also dedicate our lives to Him and lay our will, plans, and purposes down at His feet. Once we accept Him as our Lord and Savior our lives are not our own anymore. We owe Him everything. We cannot use the excuse, “I am only human” and continue walking in sinful behaviors. We must break those patterns of sin and submit fully to God.

1 Corinthians 6:20 You were bought with a price [you were actually purchased with the precious blood of Jesus and made His own]. So then, honor and glorify God with your body.

Verbally Assault the Enemy: We are in a war for our lives with an enemy whose only goal is to kill, steal, and destroy us. We cannot be passive with him or allow him any room in our lives. We do not have to always be on the defensive. We can go on the offensive and push the enemy back. If he has taken anything from you go get it back. Push your territory further and further. You be the one taking ground and not him. I love the story of David and Goliath and it really puts the battle against the enemy in perspective. 1 Samuel 17. This is an example of how I come against the enemy: (With a loud, firm voice) “Right now I am coming against you in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. I command you to take your hands off my life and my thoughts. I cancel and break every demonic plan and obstacle trying to come against me in the name of Jesus. You have no control over my life, enemy. I draw the line in the sand and say you may not cross it. Jesus gave me authority to trample over you and you are under my feet. I know who I am in Jesus Christ. I know what His death on the cross means and what power over you it gave me. I know who He says I am. I am a child of the Most High and you will not torment me. The Word of God says greater is He that is in me than he that is in the world. It also says no weapon formed against me will prosper. NONE, not one weapon. I put on the full armor of God and you cannot penetrate that. I take the shield of faith and your darts are no match for it. I hold the sword against you which is the Word of God.” This is how I speak to the enemy. There is no sitting down at the table for coffee, conversation, and compromise. No, this is a battle and I go to battle against him. We are not in a discussion. I am dictating what he will and will not do and he is obeying. The Word of God says we have authority and I walk in that every day of my life. Does he like this? No. Does he try to defeat me again? Yes. It is a battle we will be in until we get to Heaven, but we do not have to live in constant torment. Remember that your mind is your territory, and the enemy has no business using it for his playground. We do not have to tolerate the thoughts he tries to give us or the words he whispers to us. Take your mind back and refuse to give him any ground in your thought life.

Listen carefully: I have given you authority [that you now possess] to tread on serpents and scorpions, and [the ability to exercise authority] over all the power of the enemy (Satan); and nothing will [in any way] harm you. Luke 10:19, AMP.

These signs will accompany those who have believed: in My name they will cast out demons, they will speak in new tongues. Mark 16:17, AMP.

Identity: We must make sure we are walking in the identity given to us by Jesus. No one and nothing else should dictate who we are. If you do not know who you are in Him, search His Word to see what He says about you and who you are, how He feels about you, and ask Him who He has called you to be. We are all called to be disciples of Christ and a big part of that is laying down our lives for Him and totally dying to self. Every day we must make the choice to pick up our cross and follow Him. We must walk in the full identity and authority given to us by Jesus if we want to live victorious lives. We must know who we are, who the enemy is, and be secure in our relationship with the Lord.

Armor of God: Put on the full armor of God daily. You can incorporate these verses into a daily personalized prayer.

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore, take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able to resist the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm. Stand firm, therefore, having girded your loins with truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; in addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. Ephesians 6:10–18, AMP.

Name of Jesus: His name is above all things. When we speak to the enemy in His name they must obey. They understand the authority in His name and they know they must obey. The key is for us to learn and recognize that ability and put the enemy on notice that we understand the power in His name.

For this reason also [because He obeyed and so completely humbled Himself], God has highly exalted Him and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee shall bow [in submission], of those who are in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and that every tongue will confess and openly acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord (sovereign God), to the glory of God the Father. Philippians 2:9–11, AMP.

These signs will accompany those who have believed: in My name they will cast out demons, they will speak in new tongues; they will pick up serpents, and if they drink anything deadly, it will not hurt them; they will lay hands on the sick, and they will get well. Mark 16:17–18, AMP.

Authority Over the Enemy: We have authority over the enemy in every area of our lives. The enemy belongs under our feet. We have the ability to tread on them, and that means they are under our feet. We do not have to tolerate demons in our lives. We can draw the line in the sand and tell them that they may not cross it. It is time for us to take our territory back and reclaim every single thing the enemy has stolen from us.

Listen carefully: I have given you authority [that you now possess] to tread on serpents and scorpions, and [the ability to exercise authority] over all the power of the enemy (Satan); and nothing will [in any way] harm you. Nevertheless, do not rejoice at this, that the spirits are subject to you, but rejoice that your names are recorded in heaven. Luke 10:19–20, AMP.

Be Honest with Yourself and God: Do a personal inventory and do it often. Take a long honest look at yourself and ask the Holy Spirit to show you any areas that you need to work on. Do not live in denial or minimize the things in your life that need to change. Our goal is to be more like Jesus, and He is the standard we must hold ourselves up to. We will never measure up because he is sinless and faultless, but He is still our example and who we must strive to be more like.

Testimony: Share your testimony with others. Tell about the goodness of God and help others get their freedom!! Freedom is to share and to be used to set other captives free. We overcome by the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony. God set you free and now you can help show others there is hope and freedom for them as well. You are a living advertisement for His goodness, grace, mercy, and bondage breaking power.

And they overcame and conquered him because of the blood of the Lamb and because of the word of their testimony, for they did not love their life and renounce their faith even when faced with death. Revelation 12:11, AMP.

Teaching Video Link: https://youtu.be/YCIVzvxfgvc?si=kwkG9tE-LOH26Zim

If you have any questions please feel free to message me.

Blessings,

Nichole Henson

Fullness of Joy Ministry  

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